Me Being Me

I got a delightful comment in regard to me kvetching in regard to my hair, and this of course made me think of a lot of things--Megadeth's Sweating Bullets, Betty Wright's Real Woman (hey!  What's this I hear about a MOVIE?  A MOVIE?  About BETTY WRIGHT?  Oooooooooo, shoot, I'd much rather watch that than all this chick-flick bullshit and those stupid Twilight flicks!), Toni Braxton's He Wasn't Man Enough for Me, and a little side project that I've had going on in my head, that I really need to commit to paper SOON before I forget about it.  Damn!  Ever wish there were 48 hours to each day, like Chaka Khan suggested in Tell Me Something Good?  I know I do!

OK, OK, so here's the gist of this post.  After my little kvetch session, I got a delightful comment from someone going by Friz.  So, hello Friz, and thanks for reading and your delightful comment!  I think I need to change up the hair.  The bob--has been delightful fun, and it really has added an air of authority to an already-authoritative demeanor.  However--the trims are maddening, this shit's gettin' thick and knotted, and I need to wear something that doesn't get caught in my glasses.  IF I get this done anytime soon, I'll post pictures.

This also made me think--a lot of women hold onto the hair--the length, the color, the wave, the bounce, and all that delightful bullshit.  But this is what gets me--a lot of these women, in my opinion, would look a helluva lot better--if they would just cut it off.  Or at least cut it back, or wear it up, so you can see what a beautiful face she has.  A lot of people say it's down to confidence.  In my opinion, if you are a woman who works her own job, makes her own money, and digs her own vibe, why wouldn't you want the world to see you in all your fabulous glory?  Does a woman's hair make her more feminine?  Maybe, if that's her personal style and her personal vibe.  What makes me feel more feminine and confident?  My mind.  The way I walk into a room and everyone turns to look.  The way I can answer a question and quietly command attention, without even speaking.  But I'd rather look someone in the eye straight on, rather than through my damn bangs.

Enjoy the musical interlude, Readers, while I make a decision.  I'll post pictures.

Hello, me, meet the REAL me!

So many reasons. . . . 

Ein Kleine Goth Musik

For some reason, I have Rob Zombie's Dragula stuck in my head (no, this isn't a bad thing).  I have always thought that if there are cheerleaders in Hell (and oh am I ever sure there are, and YES I am their Squad Leader!) that this would be the song they would do their dance routines to.  And then, whilst perusing YouTube, I found this 

Identity Crisis

Or maybe not. . .  see, I've never had any problem with me being me, though lots of others have.  And to those people, I proudly flip the bird and allow my freak flag to billow in their faces.  I need a haircut.  I need a new hair style.  I need to eat.  I need a nap.  I'm just kvetching, don't mind me.  I'll write more later if I feel like it.

An Observation

Yes, dear Readers, I am still reading At Her Feet, but I also downloaded a copy of Uniquely Rika last night, and began reading the Introduction today.  One thing I've noticed in nearly everything I've read, non-fiction-wise, that isn't complete and utter crap--a lot of these books begin in the same way, describing D/s as a relationship dynamic between two (or, in Fox and TammyJo's case, more) people, and that if you are truly interested in this sort of relationship, you aren't thumbing through these works looking for half-naked photos of leather-clad women or looking to read the "interesting bits" (i. e. t3h pr0n).  This, to me, is an interesting observation.

Something else that seemed to stand out for me in At Her Feet--Eckhart mentions privacy and private space a lot in their work.  They also mention that there are a lot of times when She and Fox are just--talking.  talking and spending time together, and when they first met, they took things slowly and they talked to each other.  They communicated.  They didn't jump into a scene, she didn't call him a useless worm, he didn't fall to his knees and lick her feet.  They talked.

So--how many of you are actually talking to your potential others, whether they may be Dominants or submissive?  Or are you just trying to play out some sick porno fantasy?  If you are one of t3h pr0n pipple, then I feel sorry for you.  If, however, like me, you are curious and want to learn more, then by all means, continue reading.  I need your feedback and I appreciate the readership!

At Her Feet--Partial Review

Wow.. . . . so much to take in from Fox and TammyJo, and only so much space to yammer.  But here's what else I can tell you.  If you are new to D/s, or if you are curious, you should read this book.  If I had a hard copy, I'd be taking notes and making highlights.  Written by both Fox and TammyJo Eckhart, this book takes a look at everything to do with the M/s or D/s dynamic, including the polyamorous household.  They discuss everything from fetishes, to finances, to what constitutes abuse.  This is an extremely readable book, and it's very informative.  If you are completely new to female dominance, don't bother with Elise Sutton.  This should be what you read first!

Half-way Through

Readers, I am halfway through At Her Feet.  So far, this is what I can tell you.

I wish someone somewhere had introduced me to this book back in high school or college.  I would have felt so much better about myself, and been so less inclined to try and make myself be something I'm not.

Service dominant--is there such a thing?  If so, what constitutes a service dominant, as opposed to a very outgoing submissive?

This is such a good read!  To the submissive men out there who are looking for a way to introduce their Significant Others (wives, girlfriends, good female friend who you think has potential as a Domme), you really, really need to give this one a look-see.  Ladies, if you've always been curious, but never knew where to start, much like myself, I strongly encourage you to read this title, along with The Mistress Manual and maybe even Uniquely Rika.  I hope that soon Uniquely Rika will come out in a format compatible with Kindle.  This iBooks stuff ain't workin' for me.  God Bless Steve Jobs, and may he rest in peace, but dear Goddess--$500 for a device?  REALLY!?!?!?

Tammy Jo Eckhart, if you're reading this, Sister, do I adore your work!  We need to do lunch sometime!

I'll post a review as soon as I'm finished, Readers!

It's Called EDUCATION

I got an interesting e-mail from a friend of mine in the UK.  It described how a friend of hers, who has been training and working on becoming a Domme, attempted to string up her submissive.  She decided to put some sort of hook device into her ceiling.  When she installed it, she failed to test it for weight.  When she strung up her submissive, half the ceiling came down.  No one was hurt, other than their pride.

Readers, please actually read.  You can disagree with me all you like.  You can post hateful comments all you want.  You can tell me constantly that I'm fulla shit and so not the real deal and say whatever you want about me.  But seriously, Readers--no one is born into this lifestyle.  Get it?  NO ONE.  Lots of so-called experts haven't done much research, and lots of people new to this stuff are just going into it blind, thinking that they can do and say whatever they want to a submissive, or claiming to be submissive and then trying to order various Dominants around.  First of all, that's just plain rude, so climb the hell down.  Secondly, read.  Please, for the love of whatever's out there, READ.  Whether it's Elise Sutton, Jay Wiseman, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, or a myriad other authors who live, breathe, eat, sleep and play D/s and BDSM, educate yourselves. That's why this blog exists.  If I'm not helping you, then please stop reading.

Upcoming Reviews

I know, I know. . . . I KNOW!  I know I use this title a lot on my posts, but this time I really am going to finish the whole book and post the reviews.  The two latest titles?  Friendly Fetish by Dr. Emily Dubberley (based on the opening chapters, I wish someone had introduced this book to me early on in my readings) and At Her Feet, by Fox and Tammy Eckhardt.

I'll warn you right now, hard-liners--you're not gonna like my take on Friendly Fetish.  I see it, so far, as Fetish 101, much like Jay Wiseman's SM 101, which I'm still reading.  And it's not that Wiseman's prose is unreadable.  No, far from it.  But I do take notes, I do highlight and underline things, and I do read and re-read things so that I make sure I'm understanding them properly.  Yes, I know, I'm such a pain in your ass--but you knew that when you started following, so don't bitch or you'll just get the ball-gag again.

At Her Feet has been camped out on my Kindle for a while now.  I only just now got to it, and am now wondering why I waited so long.  I'm also re-reading The Mistress Manual, because I can't remember if I gave it a proper review here.

I'll keep you posted Readers!